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Old Oct 16, 2014, 05:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Brasucasulu View Post
He is not really on financial crisis. He is trying to get a different job on another town, because he doesn't want to be close tomhis ex wife. His brother could help him if he wanted, but he doesn't. I think his bro is a bullsh**ter and he does have money but he isn't as rich as he pretends to be.
What do you advice me? I don't want to make my friend upset telling him exactly what I think of his bro.

Thanks
I was trying to express that sometimes those that brag about finances, can sometimes be the ones with their own emotional crisis. My apologies if it didn't write out to read that way.

Guiding towards emotional detachment is still my personal recommendation. It is about 'mental assertiveness that allows people to maintain their boundaries and ... integrity when faced with the emotional demands of another person or group of persons.' http://www.sciencedaily.com/articles...detachment.htm

It's perhaps better to err on the side of not giving personal opinion about another's family member, and better to be more a sounding board.

Your friend may find their stressors more alleviated once moved further from their ex, and hopefully your friend obtains different employment.

The request a loan idea, isn't too far fetched, with a written contract.
Perhaps avoiding fb can help?
Thanks for this!
allme, Brasucasulu