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Originally Posted by PeeJay
I had a T who did similar things -- didn't schedule me appointments but made me reach out to ask to get on the calendar, who wanted to focus on my marriage rather than on the issues that I wanted to talk about.
From everything I have read about how therapists are trained, they are supposed to get a relationship going first. Trust first, disclosure later. That's the order of things.
I hope you find a T who helps you open up. The burden is not on you to do that in the beginning, the burden is on the T to reach you and demonstrate safety. This T doesn't seem to be modeling a safe relationship, so how could you ever open up?
I don't think this T attunes to you very well.
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I've been seeing her for 10 months. She actually wouldn't let me tell her in the first few sessions and that made it worse for me. Felt like I couldn't talk about it because she didn't let me in the beginning when everything was tumbling out.
Is everyone this way, or just me? I do that thing where I literally go mute about some things... and because she wouldn't let me just organically tell her about it... I went mute and couldn't say it. I don't even know why/how I was able to finally come out with it this week. I think I knew if I didn't, she wouldn't reschedule with me and I have things I need to fix.
I agree she and I don't really connect very well though.