That's true, but if I had said to my mom earlier "I don't feel like having this conversation" and then I get a "Why?" That almost makes it worse. She might not ask why, but explaining stuff to other people. Like I can say right now I have no spoons for sure. And my buddies my want me to play poker with the, penny poker with $5 nothing big, but I'm worried I just won't be able to handle the situation and it would be nice to have an easy way to explain to them why I don't want to without having to make an issue out of it.