So we tried to enroll my son in to school only to be told he's be held back two years. So yeah, no thanks we'll continue homeschooling. We didn't want him to go for the education just to learn the culture as it's so different then WV and make a few friends.

I have bipolar2 and my son has aspergers. Not to say your son is anything like mine, but he came to live with us from his mum and after trying one year in primary school and him not doing all that well, we decided to homeschool him. We did that for 6 years. Upon Reflection that was a mistake. I will answer why further in the post.

We we're hoping to be able to get settled, both physically and mentally. I was hoping my husband and I would have time to fix the horrible "semi-delusional" mess I made this summer as well as maybe do partial hospitalization. Yes those words did come out of my mouth.

He's becoming more/less easier to handle. He's grown up to be very polite and good natures but he's taller then me and his mood disorder is going to get worse as he gets older. I just learned his best friend, a kid that was at my house day and night, developed paranoid schizophrenia over the summer. I'm trying to help his mom through it best I can. So it kinda sucks that I know puberty is hitting and we are not prepared. Not that anyone's prepared but we had a trusted team to help us through all this crazy extra crap.

My Son was 11 when he came to live with us. He was 18 when we eventually had to send him back to his mother. He was kind and polite, was completely trustworthy (you could leave a million dollars in the house and know he wouldnt't touch it) and overall was a quiet person. However, he absolutely had to fight about everything. If it was cleaning up his room it was a fight, if it was washing the dishes it was a fight, if it was brushing his teeth it was a fight, every little thing turned into a fight. Not because he didn't necessarily want to comply, he just needed to voice his opinion and let us know what he thought. He also absolutely had to know everything, what why and when.

What am I getting at? Two things. Firstly, having my son in the house ruined my wife and my relationship to the point where after 10 years of marriage I recieved an ultimatum, my Son went or she would. And yes he had got that bad. Second, my health had detoriated to the point where I was back on medication after 7 years of being off medication. The additional stress, especially during his teenage and pubescent (aspies develop late) years put so much stress on me to keep the peace in the house it was unbelievable. The conclusion - I made it too easy for my son to survive at the cost of my relationship with my wife and my own health.


We changed everything so his doctors appointments wouldn't interfere with school. We had decided it's best the school not know of most of his health issues. So now our intakes that should have happened a month or so ago doesn't take place until the 23rd, 28th, and 30th. Since we didn't want the psych stuff to interfere with school the "new-new-new place" is a close proximity to our home which takes a lot of the privacy away.

I was looking forward to the few hours a day to collect/repair myself. Having him meet others that he wouldn't otherwise, get to know the hang out area's, bad area's just general teen-ish stuff. They've already kicked him out of the teen area at the library for not being 13. So that doesn't help. This was a new start for him and us and it's being ruined.

My son was more resiliant than I thought. He has proven that since he went back to his mothers. I was being too soft on him and too hard on my wife and I. Mistake. If I had my time over I would have sent him to public school or had him go to the library to do his homeschooling. I was trying to protect him which is what every parent tries to do for their kids. But it wasn't worth the price we ended up paying.

I don't know how to fix it. I don't know how to rebuild my once happily ever after marriage especially with our son around. I still have no one I trust, I'm still sick as are they. This move has been the move from hell, it's not letting up. I know I need help to deal with... EVERYTHING.... If not for the fact I know I wouldn't servive another winter I'd think this was the worst decision of my life but they need me and we all needed a new start.

Any Idea's on how to fix this mess that I can't even word? This would be so much better /easier if I had trust in my husband. The worse part is he should have the residual effects not me. I was the one that went crazy. I'm scared that this can't be fixed and I'll never trust anyone again.

You don't mention why you don't trust your husband, nor have I read enough of your posts to know why you state this. You may have good reason to feel this way. However, fixing your relationship with your husband has to be your absolute first priority. If you don't have him you won't have your son, and you probably won't have a you. This is from someone who has been through a divorce and knows what happens both to yourself and your kids when a divorce occurs. Make fixing your relationship with your husband your priority - even if it comes at the cost of your son having to be held back a year or two. In 10 years time it isnt going to matter to him anywhere near as much as if his parents split because the stress of having him at home was too great