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Originally Posted by sweepy62
. . . .She says she wants and needs me to open up to her , so next session , we are going to start doing origami together while we talk .
One more thing that bothered me alot was she said. We have no end date, we are long term, but therapy isn't forever.URL]
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I think the thing that struck me the most about your description of your session is that your therapist was showing some pretty poor timing, You've talked about how unsettled you've been with the lack of regular sessions due to the clinic's difficulty keeping and then training new therapists. You've talked about telling your therapist very clearly that you are having a difficult time with things going on in your life and you need regular face-to-face contact. I get it that your therapist is frustrated not being able to see your and all her other clients on a consistent basis, but her comment about "therapy isn't forever" was the absolutely WRONG thing to say during you session--a session that was not a weekly appointment meant to foster trust and consistency. When you're giving her regular feedback that you aren't feeling secure with the current schedule, she shouldn't have countered with therapy not being forever! It isn't a very reassuring message to someone who is struggling to stay connected to her therapist during a time when the therapist really isn't available or able to provide the security and trust building climate of regular appointments.
The other thing that stood out for me is that she "needs you to open up to her" next session. WTH???? How is that something that needs to be asked for from you when you've told her repeatedly that the current appointment schedule is inadequate for the work you need to do in therapy? The scheduling problems are NOT your problem, they are your therapist's and the clinic she works for. You have a need to feel safe and secure in the relationship before opening up the wound. You're unsure that she is going to be there to support you because this clinic has a history of changing your therapist and then decreasing your contact time because THEY are having employee problems. I'm sorry but your therapist is really not getting this issue if she's telling you that she "needs" you to open up at the next session. Like you, I'd wonder if she was going to be there to help process what you open up about. I get it that she has no control over the scheduling issues, but she needs to be a bit more cognizant of the reasons behind why you're struggling. Just my take on things. Hope it gets better.