I just joined Match (for the second time) because the first time around I was so overwhelmed. I think it happens to most women, because men are the ones that are supposed to "take the lead" by reaching out, especially when you are "fresh meat" on any of these sites. I would suggest match, I'm not sure if OKCupid is free or paid, but you will have better luck with sites that people have to pay something for.

My advice, if you think you overshared, deactivate your account and start a new one in a couple of weeks, maybe with a different picture- or no picture at all if you aren't comfortable. On Match I don't respond to people that don't have pictures even though that may sound shallow, I like to at least see what they look like, but I do base who I respond to on their messages and profile/interests.

You will get an overwhelming number of messages and all you can do is just go through them look at their profile and if their interests dont match up, hit delete. If they do then keep them aside and respond to the ones that you think you could connect with. Out of probably 50 e-mails I deleted a good 40 and after talking to the 10 I had cut out 5 more- it just takes patience honesty and time. And BE SMART! Don't share personal information, just basics. That's why I like match, you don't talk about sexuality or other things it is just the basics and you can tell a lot about someone once you start emailing and if you are comgfortable I usally agree to coffee or meeting in a public restaurant.

Like I said, my firt go around was overwhelming and almost scary because I got emails from men who were WAY over my "age limit" and older than my father, or guys who it was apparent just copy and pasted the SAME email to many women. Just take your time, it's fun once you get past your first week because you won't be the newbee. I have had great success and met some reaslly awesome guys so far on this second time- I am still on it, and love it! Even though I would prefer a more organic meeting with someone, this works for me.