Please don't feel bad - you're understandably shocked and what you read was plainly abusive...but please remember, any points which you feel you can relate too have been skewed to prop up someones warped interpretation of a situation that has no bearing on the actual understanding of this disease. This website has a lot of good information, as does MIND, dbtselfhelp.org...the right information is out there if you need it.

I know you've mentioned concern about the treatment of your husband and the effect it has on your relationship - how is that going? I feel like it's something you can't take on solely by yourself, a relationship has to be saved together. There are support groups for family and friends which he can attend (MIND can give you advice on this), and then there's the option of individual therapy...please just keep going, you're not a failure if you don't succeed - only if you don't try.