I have an interesting story to share: I saw a CBT T for a short time some years ago (filling in for a T who was away for a few months for personal reasons). There was always the most beautiful black convertible Mercedes AMG parked (150k car) in this T's parking space and I always wondered how in God's name he could own such a thing!

I didn't know his sexuality and I had assumed he was married to a woman so it surprised me when I saw him hand in hand with another man one day. I was still processing this and whether I should bring it up and also how comfortable I felt with a gay T, given my own heterosexuality, but suddenly one day I realized I knew the other guy! He had looked familiar and I could not tell from where. I kept thinking and thinking and found out my T's partner was a wealthy and successful businessman whose picture I had seen in the local paper before more than once!

The third surprise for me was that I realized he was a big investor some questionable stuff. I don't want to give details on the slight chance it might identify him or my T but let's say it was something like tobacco products. I did not see the T for long but since then I've always wondered about Ts and their personal lives and to what extent do we expect their personal lives to match their clinical life, and what if in their personal life they are a very different person. As somebody on a different forum once said about his T, He is all about fast cars and loose women but in therapy he is a humanist and a feminist and so zen!