I'm curious: what make you think he's a narcissist? I can speculate but I would like to know your opinion or stance regarding how do you perceive him. Some people very close to me told me that he had the right to look elsewhere to feel happy, that I should accept the ''death'' of love and move on... But, believe me, after more than thirty years together and all the accomplishments be them professionally, familial, financial, etc, etc... I suddenly felt cast out, put ''beyond the pale'' without knowing the why and the what... He left me at ''I'm not moving forward without talking about the deep issues'' at our second couples' session counseling, and that was it... Never again he gave me an explanation about his deep issues. On the contrary, two times offered something on the way to explain and both times were worse than before: that the relationship had run its course, that he always suffered being with me, that he was better off, and so on... Of course, I cannot help but look at the past and question myself, my family, my sanity, all the supposedly happy moments... and ask myself if everything was ''fake''. One of the children told me she doesn't believe so although for me it's like telling them that they are the result of an emotional fraud. And I think this is horrible and a heavy burden to carry, don't you? Any way , thanks for the vehemence or your answer.