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Old Oct 17, 2014, 05:43 PM
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Originally Posted by shelterdog71 View Post
Believe me, I try to do all those things. But when you are getting screamed at every call, for 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week, for 15 years, it really takes it's toll on you.

I liken it to rubbing sandpaper on your skin. It's not so bad at first, but when you keep rubbing that same spot, day after day, year after year, eventually it's gonna hurt and bleed.

I know I have it good, working for a stable company with great benefits, that pays well, and allows me to work at home. Believe me, I KNOW that. That is why this is so hard to deal with! I despise the work I do but can't give up the perks and benefits.

The job market in Chicago is terrible and there are virtually no IT jobs left. I cannot leave this job voluntarily. But it makes me wonder, what price is my health and sanity worth?

FYI most of my coworkers hate their job too, which is why they slack and why there is no morale. For example, this morning my coworker spent about 60 seconds running to the kitchen to get some coffee after getting off a very long and difficult call. Our boss immediately got on his case about taking breaks and being available for calls, and spent 20 minutes lecturing him about it. That 20 minutes was well spent, wasn't it?

Ugh. At least it's Friday. Not that it matters, because I spend all weekend thinking and worrying about going back on Monday.
I actually woke up this morning thinking about how you said you wake up crying sometimes and it really broke my heart. Just know that people are thinking about you and really hope everything works out. It sounds like your bosses are nazis at work if they're on his case for just going to the kitchen for sixty seconds. I guess they have nothing else better to do because that's their only job description, to yell? That's really sad. Everyone knows you get better employees with support, not fear.
I guess you have a few options. 1) Wait for retirement if it's close. 2) Get promoted to Big Brother 3) Don't take anything personally and try to laugh at it and keep your same position but change your mental approach. 4) Look elsewhere for a job, go on different interviews, discuss pay and benefits and only accept an offer similar to the one you're currently getting.
Sounds sort of like the callers are using you as their personal therapist. People aren't really yelling at you, they're just taking their frustrations about their own lives out on a faceless voice. Therapists probably feel similar to you, since they have to listen day in and day out to whining people but they're in the same room as them.
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Thanks for this!
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