I'm not married so take this with a grain of salt BUT...You seem to very accommodating to her. Is there, by any chance, people close to you all who also notice this going on? You didn't state your religious views but assuming you are, do you have a spiritual advisor that you can trust with this? I'm a Christian so I can't speak for other religions but many pastors do marital counseling. That may be a good idea if one or both of you have religious convictions.