Ok I get that the school is all weird about where to place a home schooled student and rightfully so, many really are not be educated at home for a variety of reason...

So here's my thoughts..... Why not fight the school ? Your spinning in a bunch of circles... at least fighting them would allow you to focus on something and it's an important thing. You son really does need friends and he wont find many staying at home and the best place for him to find them is at school.

Why are you assuming his mood disorder is going to get worse? No one has a crystal ball???

As far as you going PHP Im thrilled that your open to that .. But you can do that while your fighting the school deal.. You can handle this .

I know your whole summer and this move has knocked you left and right. Whether your husband helps or not your "Mom" and things need to be taken care of..

This is a new start for you all ... Focus and just knock off problems one at a time even if you have to do every damn thing yourself, at least you know it will all be done right

Be like a Dog with a bone and "make" your new life down there a good thing.