((((((((((((((( ErinBear )))))))))))))))

The first T sounds completely unethical and abusive in his abandonment of you, I'm so sorry! And what a weird coincidence to get him on the phone grrrrrrrrrrr

I can understand your waiting 10 years to see another T after seeing a jerk like that! Garbage like that makes it so hard to trust enough to try again :

I hope the other T can help you with this, and we're here... post as much as you need to!