She doesnt do much with the kids at all. She used to do more, looking to years ago. Ive had a lot of worry about leaving her with the kids in recent years because she would often be in bed for hours during the day. There have been no family events, zoo trips, kids games, beachdays that she has taken part in for over a yr. In the past yr she has made a meal 3 times. Ive made meals every day and for all occasions. She hasnt had akid to a dr appt in well over a year. Ive attended all.

Family notice. Friends have asked why we are paying for child care when she is home. My boss has asked why i have to take a sick day when the kids are sick. Several people now have said i live like a single parent. Many have asked why there are so many stories of "me and the kids". Wheres mama?

My counselor has said i am at high risk for depression or physical collapse. She has said i need to start doing something to slow down and to find a way to relax. She has said i need to create boundaries and live a little. She has said my wife cant be appeased. My wife does not follow much of the dr's advice other than to take her pills.

Maybe i am being manipulated. She has told me repeatedly she wants to stomp me some for what ive done. She has threatened an affair or a one night stand. I see this as life with someone with depression and anxiety and chronic physical illness.