Thanks for your reply allme, I agree entirely with what you've written and we seem to be thinking along the same lines. This thread has been really helpful in thinking about what BPD means to me so I'm glad you started it.

HD790GHZ, your post also makes a huge amount of sense to me and I thank you for taking the time to write it. Like you, I find the process of starting to understand BPD and how it makes us feel and behave is slow but rewarding. I still get bad days when nothing seems to work and I feel like a prisoner of my emotions so I like the idea of the intellectual override technique you describe. Something I'll be looking into for sure.