Secret, I was just about to post the guide to psychology link. I've been reading this webpage for hours tonight. There is so much good information about transference whether it is erotic, positive or negative.

Read the Q&A section first. I just learned so much tonight from this about myself.

I can speak for myself only but a few sessions ago I had some negative transference towards my T (the interrogation session) and it was eye opening for me what transpired next.

I let go on him, he responds not with negative transference but was very firm, ended up feeling guilty, then emailing, he didn't respond of course, this infuriated me and just confirmed that he in fact does not care about me. Then luckily before the next session and posting on here, I started to think of times when relationships went like this in my real life.

Instead of analyzing my T and me, I put real life people into it. It was then that I began to realize the pattern. When I talk to my T now about this sort of thing, I don't make it about him. I give examples instead of others in my life. I'm just as descriptive about the feelings but I'm not directing it at him.

Does that make sense? I'm sorry you're in pain. It is a rollercoaster ride!