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Originally Posted by kaliope
hi reznov
you don't say what bad is going to come from it. how can it be worse that all the pain and difficulty you are having in your life because you are keeping this secret. your friendship has made it thru two breakups before. why would it not make it through you discussing your feelings for her? just because you discuss your feelings, doesn't mean you have to expect her to reciprocate. and you can make that clear to her. but you are in pain. she is your friend. surely she would want to know about this. but the reality is, you guys have tried this twice before and it hasn't worked. you have to see what it is about her that you have put her up on this pedestal that you cant see beyond her, that she is occupying your every thought. but who knows, maybe she would be willing to give it another shot? you never know until you ask.. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome  |
To describe the bad that could come: She gets reclusive when something makes her uncomfortable and she's moving away soon. It'l be a few months before I see her again and I'm afraid this is the perfect set up for a huge gap in our friendship to form. Romantic feelings or not, I couldn't deal with that.
Although we've gotten through two breakups, they were just little crushes lasting no more than a month. Nothing that holds much weight. However, me confessing actual love toward her right now I feel could have only a bad results. She's you could say, delicate, and needs me as her best friend right now. Love could jeopardize that. I guess I'm afraid of our friendship becoming anything less than what it is now. There is no chance she feels the same way, I know this for sure. It took a very long time for her to open up to me about things, we've been through a lot and I wouldn't forgive myself if I damaged what we built. That would be far worse than what I go through to make sure it doesn't happen.
I didn't expect so much response in such a short time, thanks everyone.
