I'm going to take some direct quotes from the article I'll try to keep it safe but please be careful.
It is interesting to note that this is written buy a self confessed sociopath. Might be interesting to get the opinions of the AsPD's here.
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There are numerous stories of borderlines coming to view therapists as unrealistically heroic as they attempt to aid or sympathize with the BPD, seducing the therapist, and then later ‘negatively splitting’ the therapist and either claiming a false rape or simply reporting the sexual contact and destroying the therapists entire career.
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Because the mental health professional had absolutely no say in what happened? Notice how the poster likes to lay ALL of the blame at the feet of the BPD?
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As I run a blog that repeatedly argues that sociopathic traits are not inherently negative and that sociopathic people should be treated with less of a societal stigma, it would seem obvious that I’d agree with them.
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Ah, this person fights the stigma of other sociopathic personalities therefore the fact that they attack this one must make their claims legitimate. A manipulative tactic all of their own. (Tries to make you think they have a level of expertise.)
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...when even the almost inevitably toxic male narcissists are treated with at least a grain of respect.
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Gender stereotyping. Women can be narcissists too. (May be interesting to ask the NPD's just how much respect they are getting.)
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The low-functioning type will then very quickly begin to explain that this means they tend towards being victimized by abusers and that they have, as a result, had a miserable life filled with abuse and maltreatment.
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Does saying you have been victimized immediately invalidate the the fact that you have?
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They will almost certainly be a serial self-harmer, to the point where scars on the wrists were for a long time considered a dead-giveaway of BPD in adults.
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It was. Past tense. People grew a brain and realized many disorders SI. Using an outdated stereotype kind of invalidates the rest. (Also note the use of "almost certainly". This way they can cover their tracks if someone points out they know a BPD who doesn't harm. There is a word for this that I can't quite think of right now.)
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how can a person who feels emotionally deadened have intense and deeply felt mood swings?
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Because it is one of the mood swings?
Shutting down one's emotions is also a fairly common defense tactic. Stands to reason that someone who feels intensely will shut down fairly often.
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You’ll also hear that these people are completely incapable of being fixed, helped or of changing –
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The success stories surrounding DBT are lies obviously.
BPD is considered highly treatable by many.
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When you meet a person with BPD (and no self-awareness), you will meet what very quickly appears to be your perfect partner.
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and then leave them in the gutter – until, of course, they get bored and return to torment their now-victim again.
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Both of these are also typically associated with your average NPD as well. Why does this poster have so much issue with a BPD doing it and not the NPD? (Looking for a scape goat maybe? Hate the BPD not me!)
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This is also why BPDs are so vulnerable to actual abusive relationships as the victimized party – these almost without exception begin with a period of concerted manipulation, which the borderline will entirely and completely fall for, as she will ignore the warning signs that would make any other person suspicious
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Also applies to your average co-dependent/ dependent. And no 'normal' person has ever been duped by an abusive partner I'm sure.
Also interesting to note that they claim the BPD partner acts perfectly at the beginning of the relationship but the abusive BPD will show many of those warning signs themselves so the person who fell for the BPD has clearly done some ignoring themselves. (Remember what I said before about refusing to look at their own dependency issues.)
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utterly self-deluded into believing that they are, above else, a ‘good person’ and a ‘victim’
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People with BPD tend towards low self esteem and self worth. One of the biggest problems people with BPD face is understanding that they are in fact a good person.
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What is it that makes you so special that you can repair a person who is considered utterly beyond the point of no return by people who have spent their entire lives involved in treating mental disorders? I, myself, learnt this the hard way – and frankly, I consider my once-held belief that I could ‘help’ a borderline to be evidence mostly of my own tendency towards narcissism.
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Yup, burned. (If this person is indeed a narcissist one can also be pretty certain that their ego has been severely bruised by the fact that they were played so now they need the other person to be a source of unconquerable evil to cover up their own failure.)
This person's views on splitting are hilarious. They act as though it is some evil device invented by people with BPD to manipulate instead of a childhood defence mechanism that a person with BPD hasn't grown out of.
I guess all those kiddies are manipulative little brats too.
Article seems to me to be pretty clearly biased.
This person has been burned and instead of admitting their own faults they are trying to find a way to lay all the blame at the other persons feet.