When you are dysfunctional to a small or large degree and you lower your expectations of yourself the majority of people will still come down on you because you're not pulling your weight in some way. I've tried to be satisfied with just taking care of myself and not causing rifts with others, letting others be who they are, etc. and I get no acceptance and all sorts of people (strangers, family, etc.) come down on me mostly thru implicit (not explicit) communication. I don't understand why I don't get acceptance when I say something and I get criticized when I don't say anything. I'm not into small talk - I don't have the energy for that (or acting to a degree) and I get major backlash for that behavior. What's wrong with not saying anything? The people who run their mouths fooling themselves into thinking that they're holding a real conversation and are doing the right thing are the delusional and deranged ones. Socialization is organic - it's not something that is forced, imo.