Immoral to be mentally ill? No more that it would be immoral to have any medical condition.

Is it a character flaw? No. Again, someone does not have a character flaw for being ill.

Does it reflect badly on you as a person? No. See above.

On family or friends or co-workers? What does my mental health have to do with my friends or co-workers. They are responsible for themselves. I'm responsible for me. Family? Well, maybe, but from the perspective that if I hadn't grown up in the environment I did I would not have developed some of the mental health problems I have.

I don't want to be treated with kindness or scorn. I want to be treated like any other human being. My illness does not define who I am. I want people to respond to my whole person, not just an illness.