it sounds like they really over reacted.......but you are over responding and it sounds like you know that. what are they triggering for you?

the best thing that helped me contain my emotional responses in situations like this is the phrase, "its not about me"........you expressed an opinion...they reacted to that opinion, not YOU....you are not a bad person incapable of keeping friends and all the things you worry about....they are just wacked. it is about THEM! you are not defective, THEY are. so when ever you start obsessing, you stop the thoughts in their tracks by telling yourself that.