It is certainly worth asking the question of your husband - stay hopefull that the answer will be yes; however, please be prepared that the answer may be no.

I also agree with Rhapsody on the first part. regarding working on yourself. In general on the second part about it probably is harder for men. Though it was actually my ex-wife who for three years would not go to therapy. By the time she did agree - the gap was too big and the pain too deep.