I am sorry that your family had made your feeling badly.

My mom does this to me without even meaning to. Right now, she picks at the wound of my being unemployed and not getting a job I really, really wanted and really really needed to keep a roof over my head. It is just her way of expressing concern but I don't want to talk about it.

Sometimes, I don't know the best ways to express my boundaries. Sometimes various Ts have helped me develop more effective communication strategies.

One thing that happens to me is that I don't detect the physical symptoms of being irritated, so I let the other person push too hard. Then I explode. By becoming aware of when the boundary is being violated, it can help me express my boundary more calmly.

Thank you for giving me an opportunity to think about this and write this, Pickle, because I was very rude to my mother yesterday when she was trying to show concern, and I really didn't have to be so mean to her. She is very, very elderly.

I hope you feel better soon. You have many people here who care about you.