There's much to consider. Has there been a history in your marriage of moving around? If you moved, leaving him with the kids, would he have to move them? Being degraded in front of the children is considered unhealthy parenting. Is there a reason he cannot take the high road and mirror respect to you? If your oldest, doesn't join the military, what are the consequences to him? Ideally, military service is voluntary out of a sense of duty and love for country. Are your other two children on track for college scholarship? What's eating at your youngest? Is this a sudden change in personality?
Sure, you've a mental illness, yet, that's no reason for anyone, especially a husband to not show respect. Not showing respect, damages trust. Has he has any counseling or support groups to learn more about your health, so he can be a better supportive partner?

Not baraging questions to force you to answer here, self reflection. .reply if you desire of course...i sometimes ask even myself a slew of questions as I make any life changing decisions.