I'm not diagnosed with BPD--I have schizoaffective--so I hope it's okay to post here. I do find DBT helpful, though, so maybe I have some of the traits…

I wanted to say that when I was in the hospital with my first psychotic episode, I was on a general unit with a roommate who had BPD. The staff treated her terribly, but she was a genuinely kind person who made me feel comfortable in a scary environment (I had been involuntarily committed and had never been in the hospital prior to that, so the whole situation was a bit of a shock). She was one of the nicest, most patient people I've ever met, but because she was there for self-injury and mood-dysregulation, the staff assumed everything she did was attention-seeking. I'm so mad now when I think back to the situation because this young woman basically kept me from freaking out so badly that I would have been restrained. I guess I'm rambling now, but my point is that my roommate was not a "toxic" person, but rather my hero because she helped me calm down and feel comfortable in my new environment. I just thought I'd share that because I want you to know that not everyone is against those with BPD--I think the stigma is way overblown based on my limited experiences, and that people with this disorder have much to offer the world.

Best,
Hope