The health insurance is often a clinching deciding factor, as well.
Stinks, when the dream seems mutual, but one party find a way to reneg and it's always some excuse or another. Plus, never know what the future holds.

If your kids are all going military, then you'll both be free to decide on what direction to go in.

Even if works stressing him, no need to not be a nurturing, loving, supportive partner.

I don't know, seems so common. It's much easier to lash out, I guess, than nurture the bond, keeping the vows. The ideal of trust, is that the loving husband will treat his wife, respectfully, cherishing. Yeah, who doesn't get over tired? Who isn't exhausted?

I'll get off my soapbox. I can see why you are ready to vacate him. Promises, that are broken...