Bree, trust that gut feeling. If you don't want your therapist pulling up a stool and patting you, then tell her. (Personally, I think she should have been able to pick up on your body language that that was not okay with you). You have the right to not have your personal space invaded. If it doesn't feel right to you, then it probably isn't. I played this game constantly with myself. Oh, he doesn't mean to do this or that. He doesn't mean it like I'm taking it. He is just trying to be nice. I'm just overly sensitive. This is my problem. I'm reading too much into this. HOGWASH! You have the right to stand up for yourself. Frankly, you shouldn't have to ask her not to violate your boundaries.