I ran across a quote, I'm sorry I can't remember the exact wording. In effect, it said that everything in our lives now is a choice. If we want a different outcome, make a different choice.

I must admit, I largely agree with this statement, especially the "now" part as I acknowledge that when I was a child my choices were markedly limited.

However, even as an adult, it's hard to remember to recognize the choices that can be in play. Sometimes those choices are radical and require a lot of courage, but they do fall under my control. I steer this ship.

On the other hand, I think, wow! choice shifts the responsibility of my situation 100% back to me. If it's my choice, then it's my fault. There has to be some accountability for and from others.

What do you think? Empowering or blaming? Is the key being able to forgive the choices you make, learn from them, and make better ones in the future?