So I lost a lot of sleep last night, worrying about asking my t for a reduced fee. Really, what was the big fear behind my worry? The fear that she would say ''no'' and then I'd be so lost....

I'm realizing, sometimes I need help from people and hesitate to ask, for fear that I will be told ''no''.

I'm trying to understand this fear of hearing 'no' and how do I get myself to ask anyway. Is it that if I hear 'no' I feel I am 'bad'? Or that I am feeling so vulnerable and the 'no' makes me feel even more helpless and alone?

Has anyone any insight into this?