withit, I also don't like to make myself vulnerable and be told "no." For me, it is fear of rejection. Rejection hurts, and if I don't ask, then I don't make myself open to rejection. But I know I end up missing out on a lot of the positive in life, because I am too scared to ask. I think I have just been rejected too much. I guess if I can achieve a certain level of trust with a person, then I could ask. But it takes me a long time to get there. I totally need work on this.