Hankster wrote:
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Anyway, just saying, choosing a new path is hard. Or maybe, choosing is easy - actually travelling it is hard. But it gets easier the further down the fork you go?
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It's not actually about choosing a single new path. It's about making many choices throughout the day to treat ourselves and other people in ways that don't keep repeating the abusive and disastrous scenarios that left us messed up and scarred in the first place.
For me, it did get easier with practice, but I still fall down on a regular basis. But I no longer berate myself for messing up. I spend that energy on cleaning up my part of the mess and working not to repeat it endlessly into the future because I learned to act that way in my abused past.
If anyone is interested in knowing more about Dr. Glasser's work, I recommend the book
Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom