^Thank you very much, Teacake. Yes, that does make a lot of sense. It was a very frustrating time in my life. I went to her for help, and I was left with the impression that she just didn't know how to help, and the little help she proffered had exactly the opposite of the desired effect.

The way my InTJ brain works, it caused me to have thoughts like this "this person is supposedly an expert in psychology... she doesn't know me.... she claims to know that I'm a good person... what is it that makes a person 'good' anyway? I have done things for which I feel guilt.... she has no idea what those things are... she has no idea what she is talking about..... maybe she can't help me....maybe I'm actually a bad person..."

and there was some anger and some "I'll show you.." involved.. and then on top of that I was analyzing my own behavior and feeling even more guilt about the way I was handling the situation. Well, I was rather young....I was about 22 at the time. and I think my brain works differently than most...perhaps talking like she did usually worked, in her experience.

The bottom line is that she made 2 ridiculous claims... 1. That she knew what it meant to be "good" 2. That she knew I was "good".

^and those 2 claims? They're BS... and the fact that she didn't realize it? made me totally loose faith in her in general, and the field of psychology in particular.