I share your feelings about your dad. My mom has always been the supportive, present one. Most ppl think my parents are divorced or dont live together cuz u never see my dad. When it comes to my mental health, my father jus plain out does not get involved, or if he says something, it just hurts to see how disconnected to his children he sounds. Most times he cant get my age rite or my bday.

I once said to my ther, if you took away the money from my father, i dont think he could be a father anymore. Unlike yours he never complians when it comes to fundin me, its like he's happy to do it, cuz it prevents him from havin to get involved otherwise.

I have come to accept my dad for who is, Ive realized its not about me but he generally likes to be socially isolated. Spends hours in his room and avoids ppl at all costs. Im not happy about it and it has caused alot of pain and turmoil, because I seek out the fatherly love from the wrong ppl. But there's nothing I can do to change it, I have resigned myself to being an adult and never having a positive man in my life. Wish I had some positive advice for you but all I can do is empathize