Motown said "ignoring it works until it catches up with you." It caught up with me last year and crippled me with a depression I've never had. Now I'm trying my damnedest to make myself tough, but to me it just highlights every weakness. More shame doesn't equal more strength, not in my mind.

I have friends who are like the article described. To me they appear cold and standoffish, but it's hard to rattle their cage. They have a good handle on their reactions. I don't.

Makes me mad too, but at myself.