I've been thinking about this issue for a while. Ever notice how people talk about others? It seems there is always some issue. So and so did this. Someone picks on this person because of some dumb, petty issue.

How much attention do you pay? To me, it's about appearances, image, and reputation.

I've always been the type to just ignore whatever is being said. I just refuse to respond. If someone says something to me that suggests they are making judgments about the type of person I am, I make judgments about the type of person they are(in my head), and then actively avoid them. It seems to be working.

But, I notice others tend to take it as an opportunity to talk about the offender behind their back, in an attempt to discredit the offender and turn "public opinion" against them.

Does anyone else see this happening? What is your response when someone makes judgments about you, and tries to put you in position where you start to feel judged and defensive? Do you fight back? Do you ignore it? Is there some other way to respond?