I'm trying to relax…I just need to tell him to stop asking all the time if I'm about to orgasm.

It's interesting that you'd mention competition…honestly, I see myself comparing myself to him in other ways…we're in the same career field, both doctoral students, and have similar specialties (thankfully not the exact same thing). I've always been way too competitive with men in general and I feel like I have issues with that with him. He does nothing to provoke it, nor does he make me feel inferior unless it's by accident because I generally just hear what I want to hear if you know what I mean.

Yes, there's usually a round 2, maybe even a round 3. I think sometimes he might purposely not get off a second or third etc. time just to prevent me from feeling more bad about not being able to orgasm. He's at least not the sort of guy who gets off and then rolls over and goes to sleep, ignoring me.

I just need to know that it's possible for me to even have an orgasm, then I could relax and not worry about it. But as of now, it may never happen for all I know…all the reading I've done on it, I've never heard of anyone who's overcome my particular problem. I don't even know if others have even had the same problem with the same circumstances as me. Everything I read has to do with women who can't orgasm on their own or with a partner…I'm fine on my own. I just feel an immense pressure over it…I feel really guilty about not being able to get off even though he's expending a lot of effort. I'm by far the most "difficult" person he's ever been with.