We haven't tried toys, but we've discussed it. He isn't insulted or anything. I guess the reason I haven't pushed harder for it was that I was hoping something else would work first, but that appears to not be the case.

If this is such a common problem, how do other people cope with it? And if it's a solvable problem, wouldn't there be success stories out there? Also, just on here for example, the women mentioned in the threads are usually having an orgasm…so does that mean most women are having orgasms in dysfunctional sexual relationships or do some just fake it/lie about it? I mean, we're really attracted to each other both physically and emotionally, we have great chemistry both sexually and on a best friend sort of level, and I'm able to get very aroused…so I'm having a hard time figuring out what's wrong. It seems like the perfect environment for great sex and now it's only fine and somewhat unfulfilling.