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Nat92 · Oct 22, 2014, 07:05 PM

So, here I am again, typical.

I've made a few threads already about this but I always find myself being stuck, no matter what.

He's being even weirder now and I don't get why he keeps complaining about it.

Anyways, as I may have mentioned before. We're friends, me and my ex and things are going okay, I'm letting go and moving on and all that, just secretly hoping we'll find our way back together and I still love him, he loves me and still have feelings for me, but for him it changes nothing.

Right, so we've been talking almost every day up until I decided to distance myself. Now, in my world, ex's don't talk every day and I didn't really think about it that much until he complained about how I was being cold.

His message to me back then alongside with a minor lecturing, was pretty much that

"I thought the whole point with us talking again was to be friends and talk"

I told him I had just been busy and apologized, whereas he moved onto the lecturing part, saying that he didn't dwell on it and just moved onto doing other things, like it didn't really bother him after all. (Then why even comment on it?) - and said that only couples dwell on those things and we weren't a couple. (Right, sorry I must totally have forgotten that you dumped me?)

Ok then, surely if I kept distancing myself he wouldn't pay it any mind? WRONG. A week later he commented on it again, asking if we were okay, whereas I again explained that I had been busy.

Now, me distancing myself actually just means that I talk less and that I'm not overly affectionate. Our usual conversation prior to this usually contains tons of smileys, flirting, joking about the past etc. So, during this time I kept the conversations short but friendly as well as my replies.

Perhaps I did come off as a bit cold, but why would it bother him when he made it utterly clear he didn't dwell on these things? I'm his ex, albeit friend, but it really shouldn't annoy him, should it?

Apparently it does. A fair few days ago, he messaged me, (he's been the one to initiate contact recently, although I have messaged him first a few times) - asking how I was doing, how I've been, how work was going etc, small talk, then moving on to saying that he was happy to see things were going my way and calling me 'hun' - letting me know he was there if I wanted to chat (skype call, a rarity. Only happened 2-3 times since we started talking, always me who asked or begged etc.) and reminded me that he was there for me. "Always here for you" and closed off with 'hun'

He once again called me 'hun' during the next time we spoke. Now, I had confronted him about this before and he said he meant nothing by it. But why even say it if it holds no meaning? Weird.

Sprinting forward to tonight. He acted real weird and it seems I've driven him to the brink of paranoia.

He asked how things were going and I replied with "everythings good

you?" where as he then replied the same and suddenly turned around to "i'll leave you be, going back to reading

"

Confused by this I asked why and he said I seemed busy. I explained to him that I wasn't and he more or less kept going on about how he didn't want to bother me and that I should just tell him to shut up if he was. I told him to stop making these assumptions and that I'd let him know if I was busy.

He once again brought up that he felt that I had given him the cold shoulder recently, up until now.

I don't get this at all. What is up with him? Why is he being like this? Why does it even matter to him whether or not we talk every day? Why does it bother him that I'm not being overly affectionate, that I'm being short? Why does he call me hun and bring up so much from the past?

I'm really confused...