"Not really a therapy thing...." ugh... BS. If she doesn't want to hug, fine, but she sure could have found a nicer way to say it! More like she just doesn't hug clients in general. I, too, have a very hard time asking for things. But my T has always had me initiate things...like that first hug (we hug at the end of every session), and once I was pretty upset, and rather snotty-like I asked her "can you come over here or is that against the rules." Her response was "I was just going to," and she sat on the loveseat with me and held me. I initiated that invitation as well, so she's also done that since. If a T won't hug, personally, I'll see a different T.