Wow, you have really been through some tough challenges in the past few years. I am sorry.

Maybe you should look for men who are also have physical challenges, which has affected them in many ways, and opened their minds, as well?? Perhaps your ideal man on the website(s) needs to be tweaked a little bit. Like, maybe your self-description, or your likes/dislikes, that sort of thing.

Have you been working with a T through this?

Very gentle hugs and best wishes to you.