Hello LadyCry: I guess it's difficult for me to answer your question. My response to my personal mental health struggles has been to seal myself off from other people. I am something of an "urban hermit"... except that I am married. But my sense, for what it's worth is that few people nowadays have time for friendships. Everyone's busy working, running the kids around everywhere, participating in "events" of various sorts, etc. People may get together around some common interest for short periods of time, But after a while they part ways & maybe don't see or hear from each other for a long time, if ever.

I suppose it is true some people just make friends more easily than others. They're more popular, more interesting, or whatever. I was never one of those people. (So I'm just speculating here.) Assuming this is true, I don't know what the answer is. I guess if I did, maybe I wouldn't have become a self-styled urban hermit.

Perhaps if you're wanting to try to make new friends, you might try becoming involved in some community activities that are of interest to you. In so doing, you're likely to meet others who have similar interests & this may make it more likely that new friendships will develop. Good luck!