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Originally Posted by nameisnotimportant
I appreciate your curiosity and lack of assumption. My T is referring to disagreements of personal values and principles. (We've disagreed on plenty of things before now regarding our different approaches.) She gave 'vegetarianism vs meat eating' as an example. She said she was interested in trying hard to find something that might make us feel personally negatively about each other.
I can't imagine it being therapeutically beneficial to hear from my T that one of my attitudes leaves her feeling personally distant from / negative about me. This is why it feels like getting into weird territory.
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Are you afraid of having disagreements with other people. Do you always want to get along, if so, I think this could be a valuable exercise. My Husband sometimes has trouble asserting himself, and I could see how a similar exercise in his own therapy might be beneficial.
Leaning not to always idealize a person, or to have a disagreement with a person can be helpful in life. I always feel that the most important thing is not getting along with other people, but threatening those who you disagree with, with respect. Maybe your T just wants to show you how a safe and respectful disagreement can occur. This would be particularly important if you grew up in a family where disagreements aren't allowed, or if you are afraid of disagreements because they always turned into abusive episodes.