I'm not afraid of disagreement, nor do I always want to get along. My T and I have strongly disagreed and she has complimented me on the way I've handled disagreement, so I know she doesn't see this as a problem area for me.

The key element in this for me is her saying she's interested in finding something that might make her feel distant from me, which would seem to be about her personal stuff, not mine. Should any client really be expected to take on a T's negative personal feelings about them, negative feelings that have only arisen because the T has gone out of her way to unearth an area of conflict? Does this not seem unusual? I think, when I started this thread, I was looking for some helpful input on this particular aspect: my T's curiosity to find something that would make her personally feel negatively about me.