So my boyfriend and I are on the verge of breaking up. We have been together for 2 and a half years.

For the past few months I have been complaining to him that his feelings for me aren't as strong as they used to be or that he doesn't love me as much as I love him. I kept telling him that his feelings for me were declining but he kept denying it however, he just started to see everything for himself and agree with me a few days ago. He said that he doesn't know what's going on in his head. He said this has been a gradual, progressional thing and doesn't know where his feelings went, he doesn't know why they are not as strong. He said he had been trying to get them back but he doesn't know why they are not returning. So this past week we have barely been talking and I have been giving him his space and time to figure things out and organize his thoughts and feelings.

I have also been trying to make sense of things and I think I have figured out why everything went down hill. This past year my boyfriend and I have been through several stressful situations that would put a strain on any relationship. Last October I found out I was pregnant and had an abortion. After that I was having problems with his new friends not liking me. Then he got kicked out of his house (he was staying with his parents at the time) and was having trouble finding a place to stay. After that he was in between job locations and jobs for a few months. I think that through all of these stressful situations we both forgot how to love each other the right way. We forgot why we fell in love and how to care for each other. I also forgot how to take care of myself. After the abortion I just wanted him all to myself. I wanted all of his attention and focus on me and the stuff that he used to do for me just wasn't enough anymore. I feel like we both kind of just shut down and stopped actually trying even though we thought we were. I think all my neediness and clinginess took a bigger toll on him than we both realized because it just wasn't enough and he's the kind of guy that wants to fix things himself and wants to take care of me. But when he feels like he can't do those things he doesn't know what to do. He just shuts down.

But we can learn to love again, right? We can learn and remember and fix things. I feel like we can learn to love and care the right way and remember why we fell in love and remember what is really important to us in this relationship.

Sorry this is so long, but does any one have any thoughts or advice on this? Has anyone been through a similar situation?