My husbands daughter has told a therapist my husband is physically abusive. He is not. The therapist told him she suspected his daughter was lying. The therapist brought my husband in for an apt. Asked him if he abuses her. Then proceeded to say she doesn't feel it is true. Then said he can not ask his daughter about this and has to act like he doesn't know. No opportunity for any resolution. Now my husband has no idea what to do with this. He is hurt and angry about this situation. Background. Child is 13. Divorced 7 years ago from mother. She has announced she is upset we moved out of the area. She still has the ability to FaceTime any time she wants and with the new visitation schedule has the opportunity to see him even more. She announced four weeks ago that she is angry about the move and doesn't want to have contact for a while. She is the least invested out of the three children in trying to have extra time with her dad. Only when it suits her. I feel this is her attempt to punish him. Now, one day after he has learned of this, his daughter asked if she can come visit. He has no idea how to act because the therapist said he can not say anything about what he learned due to confidentiality. I find it horrible that the therapist has told him all this and didn't allow for a follow up session with the child to try to bring it out so it can start to be solved. So now he has to accept he can not say anything to her and just cause him so much emotional turmoil with no immediate opportunity for resolution in sight. Should he see his child right now when he is very conflicted after she has stopped talking to him for a month now? Given that he is very upset he has no clue how to move with this. He finds it strange he needs to just ignore the fact that his daughter is saying horrible lies about him. She is clearly seeking attention. But how do you talk to and see your child that you know is out to hurt you? Any input is appreciated. THANKS
|