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Originally Posted by sabby
You are right CANDC.
I have been on a journey over the past couple of years to come to a place of peace and enlightenment about my children. In order to get to that place, one must face those times of inadequacy and such, which I have done and still continue to do.
Even though they are adults and must tend to themselves like you say, I believe that they can also see my journey through difficult times, how I've changed, how I've learned from my mistakes and how I've come to a peaceful place in my heart. One can hope that they will see it, and learn they can do it for themselves as well. 
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Sabby, yes we are all on a journey and it is always a hope that the example of our life will make a favorable impression on our near and dear ones.
I once hoped that my daughter might be the child I hoped for, but I have found more peace accepting her the way she is. And sometimes the one I hoped for in my child appears in another place I never imagined.
If you are interested, mindfulness does not seek to change you but open up a window so you can see your potential more fully.
Here is a link
Breathing: Three Exercises - Dr. Weil
The third exercise is my favorite
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Exercise 3:
Breath Counting
If you want to get a feel for this challenging work, try your hand at breath counting, a deceptively simple technique much used in Zen practice.
Sit in a comfortable position with the spine straight and head inclined slightly forward. Gently close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then let the breath come naturally without trying to influence it. Ideally it will be quiet and slow, but depth and rhythm may vary.
To begin the exercise, count "one" to yourself as you exhale.
The next time you exhale, count "two," and so on up to "five."
Then begin a new cycle, counting "one" on the next exhalation.
Never count higher than "five," and count only when you exhale. You will know your attention has wandered when you find yourself up to "eight," "12," even "19."
Try to do 10 minutes of this form of meditation.
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I only suggest it because for me it is a magnifying glass that gets beyond the minute petty worries of life to just sit with myself. It gives me a new perspective to start the day and end the day.
Thank you for sharing all you are going through. It is an inspiration.