Ha, ha, love the goatee thing. (I love beards--hawt!)

I could probably list a dozen things, but here is one I find interesting/amusing.

When I arrive for therapy, T ushers me into the room, I sit in my place on the couch, and then he sometimes asks me if I want a bottle of water. Or sometimes he asks me if I want tea. Water is no big deal--he gets it out of his mini-fridge, or sometimes I just help myself. But for tea, he has to boil water in his kettle, put the teabag in a mug for me, and pour the water over it, and he will also add how much sugar I specify. It's a little ritual. Sometimes he asks me if I want tea, but not everytime. Why doesn't he ask me every time? What does it mean? Does it mean he is in a hurry? Does it mean he is not in a relaxed mood? Does it mean he really doesn't want to connect with me that session? Does it mean he is feeling lazy and can't be bothered? He often will make tea for himself too if I have some, but not always. I like drinking tea together with him. What does it all mean????? Why doesn't he ask me if I want tea everytime????

Another weird tea-related thing, is that before we knew each other that well, and he had not brewed tea for me yet--we had to work up to that level of intimacy, lol--he let drop that he was trying to get his significant other to stop putting sugar in her coffee. He was concerned about her health, he said. Well, when eventually he did start offering me tea, I was scared to death to request sugar in it. I thought he would think more highly of me if I drank my tea "black." So I never asked for sugar, even though I like about a half teaspoon full. Then one day, after I'd been in therapy with him for a while, I felt very bold and requested sugar in my tea. It was a breakthrough! It showed I was my own person and wasn't doing stuff just to please T.

OMG, can you believe the trivial stuff that becomes "significant" in therapy?