Mom is my current issue. All four of my sisters have cut off contact with her and now she's in her 70s. She expects me to visit her at least once a week but prefers more. She'll call when something needs fixed or she can't remember how to work it and expects me to run right over. I usually do unless I'm not up to dealing with her, sick or have previous commitments. So my in laws came from overseas for a visit and mom got jealous. The other night I went to see her after my in laws left and my mom calls my niece, her favorite grandchild, whom she hasn't heard from in three years or so. She tells her she wants to change her will and instead of leaving me the house, she wants to give it to her with enough money to cover taxes for a year or two. She thinks this is going to hurt me but I honestly don't care. The house is beyond a fixer upper and I don't want it. Then she tells her not to worry about anything as I will clean out the house for her. Hmmmm, didn't know my services were willable and mom is about two steps short of hoarder. Not gonna happen. Then she brings up something that has been a very sore point for me and starts rehashing that with her. The issue was total bs in the first place and neither of their business in the second place. So I signal I'm leaving as I don't feel well and I go. She calls me later just to say she loves me. Wow..not even passive/aggressive this time. Then I emailed her and told her that her dragging that old issue out was not okay with me. She tells me it's just old bs so stop worrying about it. I email back saying if it's such old bs, why did you feel the need to rehash it? So now I'm thinking the next time she needs a light fixture replaced, the walls or cabinets replaced or wants a spring cleaning, I should tell her my husband, boys and I are over committed for a while so could she ask one if the other kids/grandkids this time. I failed to mention this woman abused the three oldest of us horribly both physically and emotionally. Think my blowing her off would make any impression at all? Have any better suggestions?