I am also so sensitive in regards to rejection.... it's like if my husband says he doesn't want pizza, or doesn't want to go to the store-- then he rejected me. Rationally, I know that he is rejecting the pizza, the store. But my unconscious takes the blow, and I feel like he is rejecting me. I think it is because I do not individuate well. I often see myself as part of my husband.... but not in a well-integrated way... and if he doesn't want something that I want-- something that was my idea-- then part of me has disengaged. I feel ashamed that I suggested it in the first place. I have a difficult time recognizing our separate autonomies. If you don't want this, then you don't want me. We are disconnected.