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Originally Posted by JoeS21
Any chance she found you cute and sensitive? "Cute" and "sensitive" can be good qualities in female land, even if it was a man appearing that way. Based on what you said, I think there is at least a possibility that what seemed bad to you, seemed not-so-bad to her.
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I seriously doubt that.
Anyway, we're still talking. Not as often as before, but at least we don't ignore each other... Something I would never do. But the other person, who knows.
Trust me. She's not that kind of girl.
She seems to be expecting something else.
I'll get into details further, after the next quotation.
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Originally Posted by Yoda
Just because you've had some problems with sex doesn't mean you always will. You only just had surgery on your man parts two months ago and you need time to adjust.
It sounds as though you felt pressured by your most recent girlfriend to have sex when you were trying more to develop emotional intimacy. And it isn't surprising that she is confused; you are confused too. Maybe you and she can continue to date or maybe not but the one thing you need to accept (in my opinion, if you don't mind) is that you are not a bad person if you are not perfect. Most guys experience erectile dysfunction at least sometimes. I love extended foreplay and oral and stuff so maybe do that rather than pressuring yourself to perform a specific sex act.
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I'm not perfect for her. Or, at least, suitable. And it seems she is not either.
I can recall, when we started talking, she was kind of sweet and cute as long as I didn't pay her so much attention. Not that I ignored her on purpose. But I hardly see her and talk to her, and she would approached me spontaneously, so nice, and although I had little to say, she still made those efforts in order to make me like her.
Once I fell for her, she become colder. Way colder.
And I hate those powerplays and strategies. I'm sick and tired of seeing how two people just can't connect because they are so worried trying to keep their real selves from each other.
I should have known better from the start. I should have got away when she started to talk about her ex (whom she seems she misses so much), or any other guy (most of them acquitainces in common). I'm well aware that this is so childish (given that she's on her late 20's and I'm on my early 30's), but since the inciden last weekend, she keeps posting pics on Facebook of her favourite actors and drooling over them, or even remembering things about her life with his ex. I insist: it's silly and childish from both parties. It's childish for her to do that, and childish for me to take it seriously. But what I read from that is: "these are the men I like the best - either unreachable (actors) or gone (ex), both impossibles, and still better than you (I mean, me)".
Bringing up the "where are we know" and "I don't want you to get confused if we get laid" talk five minutes before we got in bed could have killed the mood too (I don't remember if I've already mentioned this).
Anyway...